Characteristic or Cause?
Often on stuttering list-serves I hear stutterers suggest that having a stutter pushes them to work harder to make up for their speech. Examples given include staying at work later than their colleagues who don't stutter, doing more than is required at the non-speaking aspects of the job, etc.
And I certainly fit into that category. I remember thinking that I had to do all the written work beyond what was expected to compensate for my stutter.
However, I just wonder whether this belief is putting the cart before the horse.
Could it not be that people with the drive to prove themselves, to be the cream of the crop, who have perfectionistic tendencies might be more likely to stutter? Could these tendencies be part of the cause rather than a result of stuttering?
After all, many stutterers observe that their stuttering lessens when they accept that they stutter and essentially allow themselves to speak imperfectly.
I just wonder.
And I certainly fit into that category. I remember thinking that I had to do all the written work beyond what was expected to compensate for my stutter.
However, I just wonder whether this belief is putting the cart before the horse.
Could it not be that people with the drive to prove themselves, to be the cream of the crop, who have perfectionistic tendencies might be more likely to stutter? Could these tendencies be part of the cause rather than a result of stuttering?
After all, many stutterers observe that their stuttering lessens when they accept that they stutter and essentially allow themselves to speak imperfectly.
I just wonder.

8 Comments:
Recently I've read an article that seems to prove your observation - that perfectionists are prone to stutter.
I am a stutterer, and have always been ambitious. My sister is ambitious too, but a bit more relaxed. And she doesn't stutter. Perhaps I am more of perfectionist than she is. Or perhaps I inherited my mother's stutterer genes and she didn't. Who knows?
Now, after therapy, I speak fluently most of the time. I gave public presentations and I teach students every week. Sometimes I stutter more during classes, sometimes I don't.
Still, life is too short to worry about my stutter, especially because of all those great people to meet and beautiful things to experience - and yes, because of all those big goals to achieve, too ;)
Take care!
Hi Chaya,
Thank you for writing.
I admire your positive attitude. I'm working towards that. *:o)
Best wishes,
Sophie
Thank you for the nice blog! I would like to invite you to
share your great experiences and suggestions with other stutterers about speech
therapy, stuttering medication, books, fluency devices, stammering associations
and local support groups on
http://www.stutteringforum.net
Sara,
Thank you. I'll check it out.
Best wishes,
Sophie
Thank. I, too, studder and it has seemed to become more severe in the passed few days. I'm trying to maintain my positive attitude and outlook on life but, honestly, it's getting harder and harder..
Yes, it can be hard sometimes to keep a positive outlook. But keep trying.
My speech hits rough patches from time to time, especially when I have a lot on my mind, but those rough patches eventually pass.
Hang in there. Chances are the added severity is a temporary nuisance. For now, try to focus on other aspects of you that you feel good about.
Best wishes,
Sophie
Closet Stutter, Your blog has moved me to start my own ... as someone who has lived 33 years as a stutterer and definitely feels like he has missed out a LOT due to this "life's lie" I find your blog a mirror of my mind's words and life's experiences ... the dreaded days when I suffer in silence will soon end when I start blogging about my life and lies (stuttering is a life's lie since you dont really live the life you intend to) ... do read my posts at stutteringdays.wordpress.com.
peace,
I'm thrilled you're starting your own blog. I hope you find it as therapeutic as I have.
Thank you for writing!
Best wishes,
Sophie
P.S.: If I can remember how, I'll add a link to your blog.
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