Perfection
Countless times I heard people mention that humans aren't perfect and it's futile to try to be. But for some reason, I still kept working towards being able to say "I'm perfect." I wanted to be the perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect speaker, etc.
Then last week, someone said flat out, "Sophie, you don't have to be perfect." And it finally clicked: "Imperfect is okay." It's better than okay, really. It's how we're made.
Guess what? This past week has been much more manageable and enjoyable than any week I can remember.
Even my speech seems to have improved. I still stutter, but I feel much better about it, which when it comes right down to it is all that really matters.
So I think (and I'm probably a bit slow to catch on) the key to being happy and content is to replace the impossible goal of "I'm perfect" with the more practical goal of "imperfect."
Same letters. Just a different way of looking at them.
Then last week, someone said flat out, "Sophie, you don't have to be perfect." And it finally clicked: "Imperfect is okay." It's better than okay, really. It's how we're made.
Guess what? This past week has been much more manageable and enjoyable than any week I can remember.
Even my speech seems to have improved. I still stutter, but I feel much better about it, which when it comes right down to it is all that really matters.
So I think (and I'm probably a bit slow to catch on) the key to being happy and content is to replace the impossible goal of "I'm perfect" with the more practical goal of "imperfect."
Same letters. Just a different way of looking at them.
posted by Closet Stutterer at 10:41 AM
7 Comments:
Being perfect would be so incredibly boring! There would be nothing to work towards!
Very true. Very true.
Thank you!
Sophie
good post! watch "the game of stuttering" by mort cooper on youtube, it reminds me of your post and it could help you sophie :)x
Roger,
Thank you for the kind words and for the video recommendation.
Personally, I think viewing stuttering as merely a habit is a bit of an oversimplification, but I do see how striving to have perfect speech can compound the problem. And it is helpful to remember that everyone, even fluent speakers, bump through words occasionally.
Thank you again!
Sophie
hi sophie,
yes maybe your right... all i know is that after watching all his videos, i seriously thought i had become fluent, as in overnight. Admittedly i relapsed recently, but i will watch these again, they get you in a great mindset. Hey, as hard as it maybe to believe, maybe it could be simple, but we overcomplicated. Well good luck, hope we can both overcome this :) x
Thank you, Roger! I like your outlook, and I'm thrilled you've found something helpful.
All the very best,
Sophie
Hi Sophie,
Thanks im just really glad to meet someone else who stutters, dont really have a ny friends or people i know who stutter (only ones ive met on courses...) If you wanna add me to skype, your more than welcome (dont worry i wont call you lol just for chat) its queeg500rd (roger thompson) By the way, my name is Roger (call me Rodge) and ive just turned 30, im a pastry chef. Nice to meet you Soph x
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